“So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us.” 1 Thessalonians 2:8

Dale Carnegie taught a popular self-improvement course designed to build self-esteem and strengthen relationships called How to Win Friends and Influence People. The Bible is a book on developing and maintaining friendships – influencing people for Christ’s sake. The entire second chapter of Thessalonians is a great demonstration of these biblical principals. The key to Paul’s approach is found in verse 8: “You have become very dear to us.”. The word “very dear” is from the Greek word agape – God’s love. This chapter describes the vital nature love plays in influencing people for Christ. Four qualities of love are found in this chapter.

Authentic (v. 3-5)
In Paul’s day roaming philosophers, sorcerers, and other people used tricks to impress their audiences. Paul approached them with honesty and without manipulation. He was direct and decisive.

Gentle (v.7)
Part of the fruit of the Spirit is gentleness, which involves patience, empathy, and mercy. This quality is essential to win friends and influence people for Christ.

Firm (v. 11-12)
Love is not gullible, nor does it ignore situations and evil that threaten “a life worthy of God.” Paul describes the personal involvement and helping someone towards maturity like a father being involved in his children’s life. Love is never effective when a relationship is kept at a distance.

Current (v. 13-19)
Paul also refers to his desire to keep his love “up-to-date”. His love was deepened through daily prayer for the Thessalonians. He corresponded with them and wanted to see them face to face. Plus, Paul was not too timid to say, “I love you.” Outreach for Christ would be more effective if we expressed love at times other than during a special evangelistic event.

Is your life characterized by a love for people that is authentic, gentle, firm, and current?